There Just Aren't Enough

Good Rainy Afternoon, Everyone. It's a cloudy, rainy, snowy, and in general : slow day in Colorado. I had a short day at work today, which was a wonderful fateful thing, because today I needed a short work day: for my sanity. After work, I had the pleasure of sitting down at the bookstore and enjoying a large cup of mint tea with one of the few women that I value her opinion. At one point we just sat drinking tea and observing our surroundings, she pointed out to me the "girlfriend stance." A teen girl and her boyfriend were waiting in the cafe line and represented the issue being addressed. The "stance" is the entitled girl standing at the side and slightly in front of her boyfriend, one knee bent, hip cocked, face gazing up with god-like adoration with the hint of "cuteness." I have to admit that while we both were revolted by the sight of the doting girl on the cocky youth, we both realize we have done it ourselves. It's easy to develop a crush on someone and forget that there is life beyond that attraction. Until of course you get over that attraction, and then life moves on.

I never had enough flighty impulses to entertain myself with a constant string of boyfriends. Friends, yes. Boyfriends, no. To me, the word boyfriend suggests something childish. I actually think that people that use the names "girlfriend/boyfriend" (on some level) are more obsessed with having the relationship rather than having the person. And if they are more concerned about the the title of "being in a relationship," that indicates they are insecure and need closure to feel like they are on a safe foundation. People waste too much time worried about what something "is" rather than being preoccupied with the individual they are involved with. People rush things, they don't realize that something that can't wait for tomorrow isn't worth having. (You're probably thinking I'm suggesting waiting for sex, etc. And I am, partly, but I'm talking about everything that deals with a relationship.)